Talking with Kids About Hard Things: Resources for Families

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As parents and caregivers, protecting our kids from harm is a big part of our job - watching out for errant sharp corners and moving vehicles, stepping in to cushion hard falls, buffering cruelty and unnecessary sadness. Sometimes though (or, maybe a lot, lately) the world intrudes and bursts our illusion that we can, outside of constrained parameters, keep our children safe.

With recent and ongoing instances of violence - the war in Ukraine, the racism-motivated shooting in Buffalo, the school shooting in Uvalde, and planned violence against Pride celebrants in Idaho - added to the undercurrent of pandemic stress, it can feel overwhelming, both to us and to our kids.

Young children absorb the news and messaging they hear, as well as the stress of the adults around them, which can lead to feelings of confusion and fear. So child development experts recommend acknowledging these factors and feelings, rather than sweeping them under the rug.

It’s easier to have these conversations about hard things, and take meaningful action, when you’ve had the chance to prepare yourself and your child. From a number of reputable sources, here are some places to start:

Inform Yourself:

• Talking to Children About Violence (National Association of School Psychologists)

• How do I talk to my child about violence? 4 essential reads

• Talking to Children About War (National Child Traumatic Stress Network)

Engage:

• Take action to promote gun control

• Read A Kid’s Book About War

• Listen to gentle stories to help children in times of fear or crisis

Parenting takes courage. Be brave - we know you are. Love on your babies. Take care of yourselves. Reach out if you need support.